Dominated: Getting Kinky With BDSM

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Dominated: Getting Kinky With BDSM

By Kaia Findlay,

Paige Miranda, Anita Rao

Published September 15, 2023 at 5:30 AM EDT

An illustration featuring four people who are participating in the BDSM lifestyle. The person on the very left has light brown skin and a brown afro and is wearing a fishnet top with long sleeves over a purple tank top. They have leather straps around the upper half of their body and are wearing a leather cuff around their neck with a leash attached. Next to them is a person with darker brown skin with a larger black afro, wearing sunglasses and a purple bra under a fishnet tank top with leather straps and chains on it. They're smiling and wearing a leather cuff necklace. On the right is a person wearing a leather mask that covers all of their face except for their eyes with pointy ears on top. They're wearing a black tank top and a leather collar around their neck with a leash attached. In the background is a masculine-presenting person wearing a black driving cap and sunglasses with some leather straps on the upper half of their body. There are palm trees in the background. The word 鈥淒ominated鈥� is in the upper righthand corner.

Anita discovers just how wrong 鈥淔ifty Shades of Grey鈥� was about BDSM. A dominatrix and community leader introduce her to kink spaces rooted in community and healing. Plus, a scholar talks about the long history behind our understanding of masochism.

Meet the guests:

Smoky, the co-founder of , shares how she became interested in the world of BDSM, what draws her to the role of submissive and what inspired the creation of Obsidian
, a professional dominatrix based in New York City, talks about the importance of being trauma-informed in domination and the healing opportunities in the BDSM community
, the author of 鈥溾€� and an English professor at the CUNY Graduate Center, explains the history of the term "masochism" and some of the controversy around masochism in feminist circles

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Kaia Findlay

Kaia Findlay is the lead producer of Embodied, 吉彩网网站's weekly podcast and radio show about sex, relationships and health. Kaia first joined the 吉彩网网站 team in 2020 as a producer for The State of Things.

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Paige Miranda

Paige Miranda is a producer for "Embodied". Previously, she served as 吉彩网网站鈥檚 2023 AAAS Mass Media Fellow.

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Anita Rao

Anita Rao is an award-winning journalist, host, creator, and executive editor of "Embodied," a weekly radio show and podcast about sex, relationships & health.

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